Frequently we’re caught in negative cyclical thinking related to problems from jobs, friends, families, etc. These “fixed” thoughts can leave us feeling helpless. 

 

Years ago, I heard a talk given by a comedienne who described a perfect performance in which the audience laughed and applauded her in appreciation. However, one woman remained stone-faced among the sea of laughter. No matter how many jokes she told, this woman was unmoved. 

 

As the entertainer prepared to leave the nightclub, the stone-faced woman approached and told her how much she loved her show.

 Shocked… the comedian learned a lesson; that not all people respond in the same way. In our self-centeredness, we can make up stories about others.

 

It is called “distorted thinking.” This performer could have chosen to remind herself that night that 99% of the audience loved her act.

 

 I invite you to look at a current problem with someone and try to find a new way to undo your negative thought pattern. Psychology refers to this as “cognitive restructuring.” This technique is available to all, whether in therapy or not. Let me know if it works.