BY HILLARY VOLPER, LCSW

In my practice, I often work with people who struggle to establish healthy boundaries in their lives.  Boundaries are not walls; they are expressions of self-respect that include the ability to say no to those who hurt us or take advantage of our kindness.  Many individuals, especially young women, describe relationships with partners who treat them disrespectfully, yet they continue those relationships sometimes for years out of fear of rejection, anger, or abandonment.

Boundary challenges also appear in families. Some parents expect too much from their adult children, feeling hurt or confused when their advice is dismissed or when their children seem distant.  Without examining their own behavior, they may not realize how blurred boundaries can erode connection and mutual respect.

I could share countless examples of boundary struggles, but the essential point is this:  we must reflect on our relationships and ask whether difficulties arise from unclear or unhealthy boundaries.  By understanding where our responsibilities end and others begin, we cultivate healthier, more balanced interactions.    Regardless of age or circumstance, it is always possible to change our behavior and to treat others, and ourselves with greater honesty, compassion and respect.

Hillary Volper, LCSW, conducts individual psychotherapy both in-person and via telehealth. She has offices in New York City and in Larchmont and can be reached at 914-980-7980. Visit www.HillaryVolper.com for more information.