BY HILLARY VOLPER, LCSW

This year, I set an intention to enjoy my birthday – a day I usually find uncomfortable, not because of age, but the associations I carry.  To my surprise simply deciding to have a good time made a big difference. Though my birthday wasn’t a milestone year, setting a mental intention, as the dictionary puts it a commitment to a course of action, proved effective.

Reflecting on this, I realized entering therapy involves similar intentions. People begin therapy hoping it will help with life’s challenges, and therapists are at the same time putting forth an intention to help clients. However, someone may start therapy without a fully developed intention to participate, and when readiness is lacking, they may leave prematurely.

Of course, celebrating a birthday is not the same as therapy, but the underlying mindset overlaps: both require deliberate intention. For my birthday, I made concrete plans such as going out, and organizing a dinner party to ensure enjoyment. 

Analogously, starting therapy often involves active steps—in this case seeking recommendations, researching therapists, and deciding who feels right. Commitment is essential. Without it, hesitancy often leads to withdrawing early.

Ultimately, intention shapes our experiences and plays an important factor in the success of treatment.

Hillary Volper, LCSW, conducts individual psychotherapy both in-person and via telehealth. She has offices in New York City and in Larchmont and can be reached at 914-980-7980. Visit www.HillaryVolper.com for more information.