BY HILLARY VOLPER, LCSW

Is Hope a Noun or a Verb?

As a noun, hope is a passive wish for something beyond influence—an expression we may use lightly in everyday conversations.  “I hope things get better,” we say without action. But hope is also a verb. As environmentalist David Orr put it, “Hope is a verb with its sleeves rolled up.” Real hope calls for action and persistence despite our discomfort.

That’s why I respect anyone who chooses to enter therapy. It’s not an easy decision and often takes time to realize that problems won’t disappear with hope alone. Action is required. Facing oneself and long-standing issues takes real courage. 

Yet, sometimes people enter therapy but leave abruptly when they realize change is uncomfortable. For example, I once worked with a young man struggling with alcohol. He reached a crossroads and recognized his destructive behavior, but when therapy made him feel worse before he felt better, he left hoping for a quick fix.

Many believe therapy will provide instant relief, but meaningful change takes time and effort. While we might hope our problems will vanish, lasting transformation demands courage, patience and the hard work of active hope.

Hillary Volper, LCSW, conducts individual psychotherapy both in-person and via telehealth. She has offices in New York City and in Larchmont and can be reached at 914-980-7980. Visit www.HillaryVolper.com for more information.